These days men are gentleman, when they open the door for you and let you walk first or they hand you something first before they take something themselves. Since most of the honour in men has flown away, I guess chivalry is rare. I don't expect anyone to perform seppuku or die for a woman nor do I want to see that happen because a dead knight, a hero with or without a mask can't return home to you! Which is the most sad thing in the world, especially when you have fallen head over heels for him and he himself loves you dearly. When a guy starts to like you, he starts to take care of you and starts being sweet. He usually feels manly and happy when he can help you out! The smile and the way he walks next to you, make you feel warm, protected and so you want to hold his hand more! Which in return makes him feel loved right?
Men seem to love to impress. I guess it may be a primal thing, the caveman behaviour when they are amongst guys "the winning", "the battle", "the physical fights" and "winning with a video game". How adorable are men when they play video games? How sexy are they when they are being passionate about a sport and play a sport themselves? How distinguished do they look when they have a hobby which makes them look so intelligent? Men are through my eyes more attractive, when they are doing what they love. But why oh why, do they act like macho idiots sometimes?
How do you as guy/men impress a girl/woman? I am surely not seeing it clearly, when this is what you do? Guys impress by being funny and by getting our attention? Here are my opinions on what I have observed so far.
I tend to do things that make certain people laugh. I know I have some strange habits and reactions but I do them because that is how I react or how I deal with things. So when people laugh when they see me, I don't think twice that it is because I did something silly or it is because I have a smile on my face, while I greet them. Seeing others smile or laugh brightens up my day and at my job I can do that plenty may it be with words or actually helping someone out.
There are smiles that impress me and smiles that don't. The mischievous smiles are the ones I ignore, because men don't need more attention when they do that. I don't have to explain this I think? The sweet smile and from ear to ear smile however makes you wonder. Did I make a joke, no I am sure I was just being friendly! And usually makes me smile in return, sometimes I am impressed by the sweet smile.
I love networking it is a business trade, where you can smile, listen, learn new things without having to think twice that someone likes you. Getting to know people and smiling is something men do often during networking. Especially when you share genuine interest in what they say. I experienced that last week. I get a lot of energy from it. New people! New knowledge! Most of them impressed me with their stories and fun comments.
Funny macho idiots? Can they even be funny? They usually make fun at someone else's expense and it gets irritating after a certain point. You laugh, because they are acting like an idiot but than you start to realize that you are encouraging the idiot to make even more stupid jokes by laughing. I guess, I had to learn that the hard way! This is not the way to impress me!
Trying to make you laugh with teasing... It is cute, when guys try to tease you and fail to do so. I have certain people in my life who I can playfully tease back and know that it won't go anywhere because they are my buddies! From the outsiders point of view this can be hostile or seem something more, but it isn't. It is all playful fun and you get to know someone better. And most of the time I get impressed when they have a comeback teaser line.
Try to get our attention
When I am busy I tend to not notice much, my concentration and focus won't flee unless you say my name or stand in front of me. I guess I have that with daydreaming sometimes. I usually don't daydream on purpose, but some things make me think of new ideas and than I am away for a few seconds till minutes.
At work and during the event from last week, I have noticed that certain men love to share more about themselves even when you haven't asked for more information. I guess it doesn't matter, whether they are wearing baggy trousers, a suit or a shirt with no tie. Every man loves to brag about something, especially when they are good at it. Was I impressed? Sometimes I was.
Not sure, whether this count as getting ones attention. But the guy in a suit was smiling and impressing me with his story. I wanted to know more and was intrigued so I continued with asking questions. He explained quite a lot and later when the break was over and the presentations continued he sat next to me. I was surprised of the body language of the man, his feet were pointed into my direction while he was sitting next to me. And I saw a grown man fidget with his mobile phone, while he was wearing a fancy suit! He looked like a confident man, he talked like a confident man, but when you start fidgeting you become a cute guy! I never thought I would ever see a man in a suit pull up his socks, straighten his tie and jacket and go through his hair with his fingers. Wow! He got my attention and yes, I was impressed.
At the event there were also instructors for zip-lining, prowling and archery. Each of the male instructors did something to get my attention alone. One of the zip-lining instructors touched his hair while he explained how the prowler works and the other asked me a bunch of questions, whether I have done this before and whether I loved it. The male zip-lining instructor (the other was a female) was handing out harnesses, he stared at me and than skipped me. My senior said: "He skipped us!" I pouted: "Aren't we getting a harness?" The man smiled even broader and said, while he walked up to me: "No, I haven't forgotten about you." He wanted to give me the harness last? The instructor of archery told me a very bloody story. He said: "Do you know that at a certain time the French cut off the two fingers of their enemy so that they can't use a bow any more? These two fingers, this is how the peace sign was created." He showed me his index and middle finger, which formed a V sign. I guess he was trying to impress me, but the fun part of it all was. My senior colleague replied: "And then they created crossbows!" I laughed from that. My senior is hilarious. I guess the guy was a bit disappointed that he couldn't make me laugh, since most of the guys there could. I was kinda girly and gave compliments to people who shot well. I also encouraged a few others.
I have observed men at the event, at work, in trains and metros. It has made me wonder how many signals I have missed from guys all these years! Have I been so blind to them until now?
Line of today: Men are puzzles, but when most of them show the same behaviour should I still be confused?