"Datin' is a lot like fishin'. Sometimes catch and release is the best method," This is a quote from Earl Dibbles jr. I shared a post on my Facebook wall with this quote and I added my own comment: "What if they don't want to go back to the pond, river, sea, ocean?!"
It was 1 September and I didn't want to do anything related to dating any more. I just wanted to reply in jokes to all the men, who send me a message or added me on their like list on Happn. I even thought: "Lets try Tinder again!" Men turned into paper aeroplanes, which I shredded by pressing a heart or by sliding them to the left.
Dating has totally been ruined by two horrible dates. They were men I met online and one found the river eventually, but it took days to throw the other back into the ocean. I should have listened to my inner voice, which was telling me not to meet them. The chats weren't fun, witty or charming. But somehow I thought I had to push myself to make the effort to go on a date. A practice run so to speak. To find aspects, which I should learn from. So I did, I learned from my mistakes but I lost interest in the game too.
I started to have a "bleeeh" attitude again for online dating and the temptation on going for a 6 months hiatus arose again! So I stopped for a few weeks and visited festivals with friends, Sail 2015, Uitmarkt, wandered as a tourist in Den Haag and Scheveningen. I had so much fun, it was intense and relaxing! And men were just guys, who passed by who smiled who I said hi back to. No pressure just being friendly.
Then on Friday night of Sail 2015, I saw a "charm" on Happn. This was after I watched fireworks with one of my best friends. I send a heart back and went to bed. The next day, I visited Sail during the day with another dear friend. In the afternoon, I checked my phone and there was a question. A sentence you would use in real-life when you meet someone face-to-face. The chat lasted for a few hours, but it felt good so I added him on Whatsapp. Later that evening I watched the fireworks with my friend and chatted with him a bit. Days after that, we chatted even more and last week even hours until I fell asleep. Finally, I met him yesterday. He is cute, funny, intelligent, lovely and a gent. Are you mine to keep?